Lessons from One Year of Heartbreak

1. Healing will not be linear, no matter how much you want it to be.
2. Some days, especially in the beginning, your biggest goal will be getting out of bed. And that's okay.
3. You can't love the insecurity, fear, or unhappiness out of someone.
4. You are your number one priority - your happiness, your health, your values. Don't expect anyone else to make you their priority. It's not their job. It's yours.
5. Humans disappoint each other often. We're imperfect and messy and all trying to get through some shit. Focus on not letting yourself down.
6. In a sad moment, reach out to someone else who is going through heartbreak of their own. Something as simple as an “I’m thinking of you” text or call is a small but powerful reminder that you are loved.
7. Find a daily mantra, and repeat it to yourself as many times a day as necessary. Mine was, "my heart is not a home for cowards."
8. If you're not religious or spiritual, find something that brings you peace. For me, it's been hiking and yoga.
9. Forgive the other person. Forgive yourself. This will be the hardest and most important thing you have to do.
10. One day at a time. Often, one hour at a time. And in those soul-crushing moments, one breath at a time.